Your Houseplants Will Love You If You Show Up Consistently

Caring for houseplants successfully isn’t a natural talent, but a set of skills that anyone can learn. One of the most underrated and least discussed skills is consistency.

When I am caring for my houseplants, I take on the role of Mother Nature. I am not responsible for ensuring the sun comes up every morning, of course. But I am responsible for providing water and fertilizer, noticing when something isn’t going right, and taking action to fix it.

This might sound like a lot of work, but actually, it is the labor of love I do to maintain any quality relationship.

A dog learns to trust its owner because the owner shows up over and over again with food, pets, walks, treats, and care. In return, the dog shows up with affection, excitement, good listening, and loyalty.

A romantic partnership thrives off consistently showing up for one another through small moments of caring about what the other person wants to share, doing tiny things for each other, spending time together, and putting in effort to resolve any issues when they come up.

Love isn’t built in the big, fantastical moments, like a proposal at Disneyland. It’s built in the quiet, everyday moments of showing up over and over again.

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In other words, good quality relationships are built on predictable routines– and wouldn’t you know that houseplant success (and love) is just the same.

When I show up to see and spend time with my plants regularly, something magical happens:

I learn what it looks like when my plants are thirsty, how often they are thirsty.

I start to notice tiny changes in their appearance that might indicate something is going wrong.

I will notice (and rejoice) when plants are growing and wonder what is going on when they are not.

Just like with romantic partners, it will become obvious when something is off and joyful when things are going right.

By spending a lot of time with my plants, I’ve developed an intuition that lets me see many plants from afar and know what’s going on.

Please note that there are still plenty of times when I’ll find things up close, too… a few new tiny thrips, for example, that wouldn’t have been noticeable without close inspection.

But the truth remains: plant care isn’t a secret or mythical power summed up by the ever-famous green thumb; it’s spending time with plants, observing them, making mistakes, learning from them, dusting myself off, and trying again.

I’ve killed far more plants than I’ve helped thrive, but I’ve also learned a million valuable lessons from it that now help me grow plants in ways I never would have thought possible 10 years ago.

All because I dared to form a relationship with my plants, not just treat them as decor or as cut flowers to be replaced, but as something more. And when I did that, magical things began to happen… not because I am magic and not because my plants are, but because I’ve shown up day after day, building a relationship of love.